Wednesday, July 30, 2003
Wellz, Jeevitha told me to blog again.... i'm so lazy.
At this current time and age (for me, and for a lot of you --- actually all of you, i can't imagine an 30-years-old adult reading this), relationship, love, plays an integral part in our lives. It it inherently exciting, brings a lot of happiness, and most importantly, provides topic of discussion. Nevertheless, it is a very serious issue that needs to be explored and fully understood. Wellz, my friends has bugged me about this, therefore I reall should talk about this.
I don't use the word "love" lightly. Ever. For those of you who knows me, you know my story. I always use the word "like" not "love". Because I don't fully understand the scope of the word "love". I have love for my family, my church people, these are the type of love I know the scope of. In relationship, I don't really know. I know it meant committment, a whole life's worth; full understanding and tolerance (his/her good point, bad point, habits that you cannot stand, etc.) , a whole life's worth; God's love as foundation, a whole life's worth. That's all I know, and I don't think that's all of it, but as far as I am concerned, these are overwhelming enough that I know i'm not ready for. Therefore, I never use the word "love". When people mention they "love" someone to me, I do wonder, do they know what they mean by "loving". I'm not here to criticize anyone, because there are some who are willing to make those committment, though they might not be mature enough. In this circumstance, immature can be the word, so can the phrase "not fully understand", or, ultimately, a pure and naive motive (which is not bad). However, I believe "love" is complicated, therefore, a naive and pure hearted "Love" is not good enough nor is it sufficient enough (it's good, but not sufficient). For if you go in as a blind, pure, naive person, you'll come back battered and bruised, because you don't know what lies ahead. Love not only encompasses what we do know, but also encompasses everyone around us. When we don't know the responsiblity we each have to hold, talking about loving someone is in vain because it can only means more reponsiblity. At the same time, this relationship might not be fitting with all the responsbilities one may have.
"love" is also an on-going process, i dont believe that "love" is something that you can stumble upon, or if you see some one you can fall in love with him/her immediately. It takes time to learn and become more and more accustom to. Love is good, but it is not cheap. I believe that it's possible to have an interest in someone, thus liking the person, but I do not belive it's "love", because "love" takes time to develop.
Alright, all those are what I believe in, however, more ppl are more interested in who i like, like Jeevitha and many gossiping others. Sorry guys, that's for you to find out ;p
posted by Samuel on 7:58 PM
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